The Final Analysis

The Final Analysis

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered:
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone may destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is all between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

(Wayne W. Dyer).

shoot the messenger?

someone very close to me recently broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years..

he ended the relationship stating various reasons that to me, seemed immature and something he should have said at the beginning of the relationship, not when it is already 4 years down the line, not when she is planning marriage preparations, and certainly not when they have paid downpayment for a house and make everlasting promises..

she still have hopes tho..as most women would..and he, instead of letting her go truly and finally, keep giving her hope that they might reconcile and then rejected her again and again..but she persists on this hope because in her mind (and her heart) the only way he/she can let this go if either of them found someone else..

two weeks ago i found out that he actually have another girlfriend, and has been seeing her officialy for months..

i checked and verified..

i decided to tell gently break the news..having her best interest at heart, she can finally really truly let go..

unfortunately she is now not speaking to me :(

have i lost a friend because i told her the truth?

i know our friendship is stronger than that and i know it will get better once she gets better, after all this is not about me, this is about her, and her pain, and as a good friend, as her best friend, i only have her best interest at heart and i would never deliberately give her more sadness; and i know she knows that ..but meanwhile, this still hurts.. :(

is it better to know or not to know?

the other side of the story..

i started off by wanting to write about several things that has happened these past weeks, but after a long discussion with the BF, he made me realise that i do not owe anyone any explanation and if i really want to let it go, i should let it go both in my heart and in my head, and he knows fully well that if i started writing about it, all those feelings of hurt, resentment, disbelief and most importantly, betrayal, will come rushing back and i would again be hurt by those very people i thought closest to me..

sometimes people can be become unbelievable arrogant and believed that they are and would always be right, forgettting that being human we all make mistakes and if you think that you are above accepting apologies/or asking for forgiveness, then there's really nothing i can do. i have made peace with some mistakes i have made, bridges that i have broken, sometimes simply because i was too angry and too upset to understand. but having said that, i have no regrets for the choices i make and letting some things/people go is the only way i can move on with my life...its never an easy decision and/but often you have to ask yourself, is it really worth it?

sometimes its worth listening to the other side of the story before making conclusions and hurting people you love..

just a thought..

psstt..

Im in the middle of a "project" at the moment..

No, no not work related :p just keep reading my blog, all shall be revealed soon enough tee hee..

You all kena support me tau! :p me and my partners-in-crime will be working hard to ensure it will be a successful event (ecewahhh) (^_^)

Meanwhile, i leave you with another one of my fav Calvin and Hobbes strips..dont u just wish you have Hobbes as a pet?? sigh...

the one with the three-o birthday...

happy birthday to me! (^_^)

well, sorta one day belated hehe :p

thank you all for the birthday wishes on several means of communications :p i was surprised to receive some wishes from some unexpected new friends, and was also surprised to not receive any wishes from some whom i viewed as close friends hmmm...oh well :)

how does it feel to be no longer in my twenties?

terrifying!

but i will just look at it as another big adventure..

after all, age is just a number rite?