Monday, July 06, 2009

shoot the messenger?

someone very close to me recently broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years..

he ended the relationship stating various reasons that to me, seemed immature and something he should have said at the beginning of the relationship, not when it is already 4 years down the line, not when she is planning marriage preparations, and certainly not when they have paid downpayment for a house and make everlasting promises..

she still have hopes tho..as most women would..and he, instead of letting her go truly and finally, keep giving her hope that they might reconcile and then rejected her again and again..but she persists on this hope because in her mind (and her heart) the only way he/she can let this go if either of them found someone else..

two weeks ago i found out that he actually have another girlfriend, and has been seeing her officialy for months..

i checked and verified..

i decided to tell gently break the news..having her best interest at heart, she can finally really truly let go..

unfortunately she is now not speaking to me :(

have i lost a friend because i told her the truth?

i know our friendship is stronger than that and i know it will get better once she gets better, after all this is not about me, this is about her, and her pain, and as a good friend, as her best friend, i only have her best interest at heart and i would never deliberately give her more sadness; and i know she knows that ..but meanwhile, this still hurts.. :(

is it better to know or not to know?

4 comments:

artisticklytouch said...

u make the right move. Perhaps she is not mad at you but to the situation. Just give her time to absorb it.

nique_naq said...

hi art, giving her time now, i hate not being able to talk to her tho :(

EveN said...

darling...here's the thing, they want listen to wat they want to listen not what we want to listen. anyway, truth hurts.just hangin there as her best friend. don't give up being her best friend.

niQue_naQ said...

thanks babe :)